As a parent, it is your job to raise your child properly. What you need to realize, however, is that there are different styles of parenting. Each parent does things his own way, and sometimes your unique parenting style may not be the same as your partner’s. The type of parenting style you choose affects your children, however, so take the time to identify your style and make adjustments, if needed.
The Four Types of Parenting
Researchers have determined that there are four specific types of parenting. Each of these four styles affects children in a certain way and has a certain impact on their life. Here are the four parenting styles:
As a parent, you may feel as though you don’t fit neatly into one of these four categories. Don’t worry – that is common! When raising children, you need to adapt to the situation at-hand and take your child’s individual needs into account. Keep reading to learn more about each style of parenting.
1. Authoritarian Parenting
An authoritarian parent sets hard and fast rules, expecting their child to follow them at all times. This type of parent believes children should be seen and not heard – they set the rules and their child is expected to follow them, regardless of their feelings. An authoritarian parent doesn’t allow their child to take part in decision-making and they aren’t interested in negotiation, all they want is unwavering obedience. The famous phrase of authoritarian parents is, “Because I said so.” Children don’t need to understand the rules, they just need to follow them – that is how an authoritarian parent thinks. These parents issue punishments, not discipline, and they are more focused on making a child pay for his mistakes than helping him to learn from them.
2. Indulgent Parenting
Also known as permissive parenting, indulgent parenting is a style founded in leniency. These parents might set rules, but they rarely enforce them. They may make threats, or they may not, but they rarely follow through and bad behaviors rarely have consequences. An indulgent parent may try to issue consequences, but they often give in or back off if the child whines or makes promises to be good the next time, even if they have no intention of doing so. These parents try to be a friend to their children rather than a parent. As a result, children of indulgent parents often don’t learn to make smart choices because they never learn that their actions have consequences. These children tend to struggle in school and they often have low self-esteem – they also tend to have trouble with moral values and they often do not respect authority which can lead to behavioral problems in school, and often criminal activity later in life.
3. Neglectful Parenting
A neglectful parent is one who is largely uninvolved in his child’s life. These parents basically expect their children to raise themselves and they don’t put a lot of effort into meeting their child’s needs. Neglectful parents are not always neglectful on purpose – they may have substance abuse issues or health problems that makes it difficult for them to care for their children. A neglectful parent tends to let his children do what he wants and may not even know or care where their child is half the time. They don’t ask about homework or academic performance, and they don’t set or enforce many rules. Children of neglectful parents often grow up with self-esteem issues and behavioral problems – they also tend to perform poorly in school. In many cases, these children grow up to be unhappy and many develop mental health issues as well due to a lack of parenting which prevents them from growing up into a healthy adult.
4. Authoritative Parenting
An authoritative parent is one who uses discipline as a tool for teaching. This style of parenting involves setting clear rules and boundaries, but with the purpose of teaching their child a lesson rather than for the purpose of punishment. Authoritative parents reinforce good behavior with rewards and they use positive discipline to teach life lessons and to address behavioral problems. These parents are generous with praise but firm in discipline, though all consequences are fair and logical. Children raised by authoritative parents learn that their actions have consequences and they are more likely to develop into responsible adults who can evaluate the risks and make their own decisions.
If you really want what’s best for your children, studies show that an authoritative style of parenting is generally best. What really matters, however, is that you give your child the love and support he needs to grow into a healthy adult. Some situations may require you to be permissive while others may require a more authoritative hand. Just do your best to be the best parent you can be – that is all anyone can ask for.
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