Potty training is not a one-day affair. It is a process of inculcating skills of using a potty to your child. However, you must not force your child. Try to find out if she is ready for it. The transition may not be smooth but you have to be patient and stay consistent to brave out disruptions and frustration.
Potty training is a big milestone for the child and equally important for parents. It is an important step in teaching healthy and hygienic habits to kids. But you must not turn training into a process of civilizing a rude, stubborn child. Start it only when your child is ready and allow her to progress at her natural pace. Remember, she is not a grown-up adult to understand and comply fully with your directions. Instead of feeling irritated and annoyed, continue to support your child to get things done right.
Using a potty is a new skill for your child to learn. It’s best to take it slowly and go at your child’s pace. Being patient with them will help them get it right, even if you sometimes feel frustrated.
Here are a few essential things every parent must keep in mind while imparting potty training to the tiny tots.
Is Your Child Ready for Potty Training?
There is no fixed age for potty training. While some children are ready as early as 15 months, a few are able to learn the skills when they are around 2 years. Each child is unique and you must not coerce your child to learn toilet training. To be successful and enduring, it must coincide with the interest of the child. Start teaching her skills to use a potty only when she is physically and emotionally ready. Else, it will become a long and frustrating process with more chances of regression.
To identify if your child is ready to learn potty training, watch for signs. Physically, she must be able to climb on and sit properly and independently on the potty. She must be mentally aware of the need for toilet training and avoid playing. The development of motor skills relating the potty chair with the need to pee and poop is another prerequisite. It is easier to potty train a child when she is aware of the reason why others go to the toilet.
Understand Potty Training Clues Early On
Often children give verbal and non-verbal clues indicating their readiness to learn toilet training. You can use these opportunities to your advantage without waiting for the age to start.
When a child follows you to the toilet or tells you before doing pee or poop, you have a chance to explain her about the need for going to the toilet. When she tells you about her pee or poop, you can also try to explain the need to convey the urgency beforehand. These are also hints that she is ready for learning to potty train.
You can also look for non-verbal clues, such as the child looking for privacy or hiding from public glare. It is the right time that you take her to the toilet.
Stay Positive and Be Consistent
Remember, you are training a child, who is yet to fully understand and grasp realities and habits of life. Stay positive and remain consistent despite bottlenecks in the teaching process. Remain gentle in your approach and continue with your efforts.
Your goal is to help your child acquire skills about using a potty. Try out different ways to support the child. Never be worried about her failure to listen to you or obey directions. There may arise occasions when you feel frustrated. Worried parents have more chance of giving up or alienating their children.
Stay calm and positive about the success of potty training objective. Be consistent in your task and learn the trick from various sources. Enroll the assistance of other family members.
Don’t Use Pressure or Punishment for Potty Training
Training to become successful depends on the ability of the trainer to impart a skill as well as the interest of those trained. Use of pressure and punishment leads to trained people without the ability to use those skills effectively.
This also holds true for potty training. It is always more strenuous to force or coax a child into learning toilet training. Her unpreparedness or disinterest will only compound your frustration. Disinterested children are more vulnerable to regression. This means all your efforts simply go to vain.
It is advisable to avoid any kind of pressure or punishment on kids to attain your potty training objectives. But you can make the training process more effective with positive reinforcement. Admire every time your child uses the toilet. Be a friend to your child and make the training process a fun, not a rigorous, routine.
Long, Frustrated Potty Training Normal
Parents usually start worrying if the child fails to fully comply with within the first few days of training. This is a grave mistake, and it tires them down with irritation and frustration. As they start to be strict and dole out punishments for noncompliance, alienation between parents and child sets in.
Parents must recognize the fact that potty training is time consuming and stressing. They cannot expect it to be over in a few days. It may require weeks of dedication and could even go on for months before your child is able to understand and comply with your objectives.
Spend ample time on toilet training your child. Remain committed until she is fully trained irrespective of the time taken. Hang in there and stay focused and relaxed.
Be Prepared To Brave Out Pitfalls
You must be mindful of the fact that the process would not be easy and setbacks are sure to be there. The child is yet to mature fully and her ability to comply with is not assured at least for a few weeks. Similarly, she lacks the strong capacity to hold back her urge to pee or poop.
So, be flexible in your thoughts and actions while imparting potty training to your child. Avoid being a conformist to rules, and be ready to use diapers whenever required. Don’t panic at pitfalls, as your tiny tot has her own physical and emotional limitations in following your directions. You cannot control bedwetting at night or trip-ups along the way. The risk of regression is always there as well as training disruptions.
Just anticipate accidents and try to avoid them. Limit the training to a certain time during the day. You may increase the duration with progress.
Kids potty training is similar to conditioning. Frustration caused by setbacks may impact parent-child interactions. Preparedness on both sides for the training is desirable. Parents must be aware of the child’s physical and emotional state and fine-tune their ability to impart training. You must show patience and be prepared for messes. Your commitment and dedication would surely pay off, but needs time to become fruitful.
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